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San Francisco, CA
Do not shy away from your pain
in fact allow yourself to drop through your heart
and into the deepest roots of it
for it is in that combination of love and pain
you find the anecdote.
This is my first blog on WordPress. So, for those of you who may not be familiar with me, I am a long time professional Intuitive who lives in San Francisco. I offer individual counseling, mentor those who want to learn how to develop their intuitive abilities, and offer Readings for private and corporate events and gatherings.
In my work, I am presented with people who are trying to make the best decisions for themselves. Fear of failure can stop them from opening doors to new opportunities. The mind says something like, “I want to be in love, or I want to apply for a new position, or I want to write that novel, but when I tried before it didn’t work out and I got hurt.” More times than not, after we experience something deeply negative, our mind will vow, “I’m never going to do that again.”
Healing from painful experiences is an important topic, because if your early life was anything like mine was, you probably weren’t shown too many coping skills to help you to deal with your pain in a productive way. I was taught to either suppress pain or to express my anger to others if I felt I was in the right. Suppressing my pain led to depression and trapped my feelings in a way that they couldn’t change. And expressing my anger just added more suffering. I also found that the I’m right and you’re wrong perspective pitted me against others, and didn’t help to build understanding.
So what are the steps to transforming pain from something that holds you back, to something that helps you to move freely towards your visions? Zen Buddhist Monk Thich Nhat Hanh teaches that we must take care of our pain. That in bringing awareness to our pain we can transform it.
A Sitting Meditation
By Thich Nhat Hanh
Joy of Meditation as Nourishment
1. Breathing in, I calm my body.
Breathing out, I smile.
2. Breathing in, I dwell in the present moment.
Breathing out, I know it is a wonderful moment.
By embracing ourselves and our pain, by sitting still with our pain, by breathing into our pain, we begin to take care of it. We don’t analyze or judge it, we simply sit with it and hold it as we would a crying child. We stay with ourselves during our time of need. Even if we have never done so before. It doesn’t matter if the pain is new or old. We accept that we are in pain and sit patiently with it.
We may feel many emotions. You needn’t analyze them. Just allow them to cycle through with acceptance. We may feel a release. We may feel an ease. We are allowing our pain to be part of our path of healing.
Lessons may arise from this experience. Space opens up. New possibilities and beginnings can come because the pain is no longer stuck. It doesn’t mean that you forget your experiences. It means that you have learned to let them help you to take another spin around the wheel of life and to create anew.